I met with a former coaching client for a lovely dinner the other day, and we spent some time catching up since it had been a couple of months since we had connected. We told each other our stories, including how some relationships, business and personal, had ended.
She said it's like walking with someone along a path. You both can see the same thing because you're looking at the landscape from the same vantage point. You have a commonality.
Your path takes you across the river.
The other person, though.... her path is different. She can't or won't or doesn't need to cross the river to the other side.
So, there you are... on one side of the river, while your former companion on the journey is on the other side. And she can't see what you see, because her vantage point is different.
The problem is when the person who stays on the original side of the river judges you based on what she sees, and she doesn't realize that you see something completely different.
Our journey takes us many places, and sometimes others can't follow.
And sometimes they can.