Write Well Me

Having a bad day

This Memorial Day weekend we spent with family in Pennsylvania.  I was happy to see my parents and and aunt and uncle, and my children were head over heels thrilled to play with their cousins - much frolicking and laughing and playing all weekend!

After the family weekend, we drove home to Maryland, going through Gettysburg to see another cousin and meet her for dinner.  It was a beautiful drive through the mountains, and it was a glorious, sunny (albeit hot!) day. 

Then we got home.

Even though we were only gone two days, being home felt strange and alien.  I had to remember what my life is normally like.  Hmmmm.  Re-entry can be hard.

I'm all about living an authentic life, and it's not that I'm unauthentic when we visit family.  It's just different.  Since I don't have family living near me, I can go months without seeing them.  So family becomes a facet of me that doesn't get exercised as much as the rest of my life. 

So, to begin the re-entry process, I worked, and worked out, and did all the things I would normally do (eat breakfast, eat lunch), but still not feeling that joy of being that I normally feel. 

Then, my girls came home from school, and it was as if all that was washed away.  Maybe it's because one of my facets of life (being a mommy) was shoved right in my face - "Here!!!  Look at me here!!!!!" 

Now life feels like it should.  And it's good to be home.

The Important Things in Life - Movies

My newest favorite movie is Last Holiday with Queen Latifah and LL Cool J.  The premise of the movie is that Queen Latifah's character, Georgia Byrd, has been diagnosed with a rare disease and is told she has only 3 weeks to live.  Being a shy, careful person all her life, she decides to spend her last 3 weeks in luxury at a beautiful hotel in Prague.

I saw this movie for the first time when we visited the Atlantis in April.  It seemed quite appropriate to watch this movie about a woman living her life fully while we were vacationing at the vacation spot of our dreams. 

My husband Chris was so proud of himself because from the first time that he saw previews for this movie, he knew I would like it.  Then, when I fell in love with it head over heels, he was quite smug.  :-)

I couldn't wait until March 9 when the movie was released on DVD.  Tuesday, March 9, came, and to Target I went to buy the movie.  Not only did I buy it and watch it that night, but I've watched it four times since then, making it 5 times in about as many weeks.

Why do I love this movie?  It's certainly a feel-good, very chick movie.   But it also has a happy ending (just about a necessity for me when I'm watching movies), and the basically-everyone-is-good philosophy.  The one "bad" guy even redeems himself somewhat.

Besides all that, though, the reason I love this movie is because I am all about living my life to the fullest, not letting fear get in my way, no matter how hard it is to persevere despite my fears. 

I have this great idea for a new company, Write Well University, and I've even scaled back (okay, I'm actually in the process of closing) my virtual assistance practice in order to pursue it.  But I find that every now and then I'm plagued by fears of not being good enough, of not being able to create something that's worthwhile and truly helps people write better.  Still, I press on.

In the words of Georgia Byrd, “Next time, we’ll do it differently. We will laugh more. We’ll love more. We’ll see the world. We just won’t be so afraid.”

Be, Do, Have

In T. Harv Ecker's Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, he talks about several "wealth principles," those things that wealthy people seem to know, and poor or middle-class people don't.  While my main goal is not to be a millionaire, I wouldn't turn it down though - it's just that I want to concentrate on who I am more than on what I have - which is why this whole "Be, Do, Have" struck a chord with me.

Be, Do, Have is one of T. Harv Ecker's wealth principles.  Wealthy people work on who they are (the Be), do what they need to do (the Do - obviously), and then they have what they want, including lots of money (the Have).

Poor people think they need to have the money first, then they can do the things they want, and then they become the people they want to be.

For me, millionaire goals aside, "Be, Do, Have" is the way I want to live my life.  I'm going to be happiest when I'm fully expressing me and acting in accordance with my values and priorities.  Everything will fall into place after that.

Be, Do, Have.